The Importance of Saying Goodbye

By: Adam Ciha
Friday, October 21, 2016

When the death of a loved one occurs in life, one will often immediately feel a sense of shock and pain. As the first few days go by and you are beginning your grieving process, the funeral or memorial service that you will attend is your final opportunity to say your goodbye’s to your loved one, pay your respects, and embrace the life that they lived and shared with you.


Many people go through the internal questioning of, why? Why would going to a funeral be beneficial to me? Won’t it just make me sadder? The truth is that by going and showing your support to others and having the support from them as well; as you say your last goodbye, you begin your healing process of acknowledging your loss and acknowledging that the days to come are going to be different.


Here are some reasons saying your final goodbye at the funeral or memorial service is so important,


Support Systems

Not only yourself, but everyone around you is experiencing some level of pain according to the relationship and how close they were to the deceased. You are all supporting each other in some form by sharing this moment together. You are all beginning to heal as you come to terms with the loss and find acceptance to heal and move on.


Paying Tribute to Your Lost Loved One

As you pay your respects to the deceased at their funeral or memorial service, everyone is remembering the life that they lived, sharing stories and memories. As a whole, the love that everyone feels for the deceased is expressed through emotion and gathering.

On some occasions, there is a memorial tribute that is personalized to the loved one who has passed for everyone to be a part of as they are going through the transition of the physical presence of their loved one to what is now a memory.



No matter what kind of service or ceremony is being held, it is important that you attend not only to pay your respects to your loved one but to allow yourself to begin healing. If you have any other questions or would like to speak to the professionals at Gay & Ciha Funeral Home, please contact us here.


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